Get over it

We as humans are inherently selfish. At the end of the day, all we care about is the bottom line for us. What will happen to me? What will be the outcome in regards to me? When we are hurt, it is all about "I". Is there anything wrong wit that? Not necessarily. You see, when people are going through something, they feel that their individual problem is that of entire world.
Nothing can possibly compare to what I'm going through. You cant understand, because you haven't exactly been through what I'm going through. If your circumstances weren't exactly the same, and you didn't respond in exactly the same manner and the outcome wasn't exactly like mine, you cant possible understand me; because you didn't go through what I went through.
We all have issues with understanding the trials and tribulations of life. We feel that our pain is ours and we own it. I have come across very few people that strive to internalize and keep secret their strife secret. So secret is their pain, that any attempt to identify and help is met with scorn and resentment.

Life is life. We all go through things. We all experience highs and lows. What's a pebble to you may be a boulder to someone else. Our coping mechanisms vary greatly and come from experiences that may have hardened us to or just at a basic level, made us more aware; allowing for a certain level of empathy. Life is life and can be hard at times. We get so caught up on pain sometime that we lose sight of what it is that is going right in our lives. Recently, a friend of mine issued this quote on a man wanting-"Sometimes a man can want something so bad, be so full of want...he plain forgets what it is he wants." I think the sentiment applies here- we are so consumed by our pain that it blinds us to the good in our lives; to the good people in our lives. If our pain is caused by someone hurting us, we lose sight of those that are trying to help us; those that arr trying to put a smile on our faces. All we see is that pain and that hurt. If the pain is caused by the lost of something, all we see is that loss. We cant seem to see what we have acquired in that loss; we don't see that in that void, we have been blessed with the opportunity to gain something of even more remarkable wealth, but how will you be able to acquire that item or blessing if you're so consumed with the pain of the loss?

We all have our moments of strength and weakness. If we aren't careful, sometimes our moments of weakness can be all consuming and often times define us. How would you feel if you were then labeled by the weakest moment in your life? How would you feel, if at your lowest, people chose to only remember you as such? Think back to your weakest moment and imagine what a life would be like living in that moment day in and day out. Pretty bad right? Why then would you want to hold on to something like that? The same thing applies to pain. If pain is seen as a moment of weakness, why then, do we as a people, hold on to pain so strongly? Why are we able to allow love go by the way side? Why are we able to remember transgressions and mistakes more readily then that of a good deed? It is said that we are a reflection of Christ Jesus, and that through our acts others should be able to see God within us. If such is true and we all know that Jesus Christ forgave our sins, why then do we not forgive sins? Sins not in the ultimate bad or evil, but in in simple transgression against your own commandments. God forgave sins and we are reflection of God and thus should forgive sins, if not to forgive them what shall you do with them? John 2o-23: 23If you forgive anyone his sins, they are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven."

If your don't forgive sins, what are you going to do with them if you don't forgive them? Some people take those same unforgiven sins and like to remind people of those sins.we like to remind people of what they did, of how messed up they are. Any chance we get we throw in their face that they once sinned, that they once made a mistake, that they once fell short. We like to hit them over the head with the fact that they made a mistake. Thus leading to a road of guilt on that person. I'll get to that in a bit. I am guilty of this.

Guilt is an incredible thing. Guilt can be one of the strongest emotions. Guilt can transform you. Look at the definition of guilt:

1.the fact or state of having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, esp. against moral or penal law; culpability: He admitted his guilt.
2.a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.
3.conduct involving the commission of such crimes, wrongs, etc.: to live a life of guilt.

Sometimes we allow our issues to get in the way of our blessings. We allow our issues to take over and bar us from achieving what is rightfully ours. We allow our issues to cripple us and stop us from being where we need to be or being with who we need to be with. We have issues with getting over them. That damn guilt thing again.

You aren't going to come out of a situation wound-less. You will rise up with the marks of that fall. Wounds don't have the final word. Wounds shouldn't contain and define you. Let me tell you something, it is OK to walk around with open wounds; with wounds from your past; with wounds made by other people. I am here to tell you that, yes you can live in spite of your wounds. Live with the wounds, not the pain of the wounds. Pain shouldn't define you. Don't be afraid of the scars and wounds. We don't like to allow others to see the depth of our damage; the depth of our pain and struggle. We like to cover up our wounds, but what those wounds show is that you're still standing. All they show is that you have been through something and survived. Do you get it? That you survived. And we all love a survivor.

I have walked around with the guilt of my sins, or my transgressions, or my mistakes, and shortcomings. I have allowed it to consume me to the point that I have missed out on some rather remarkable acquisitions. I have been blind to the good that surrounds me and the people that have come into my life to help me out of my situation. Sometimes we pray and wish for something, that if it doesn't come in the package or in the way we thought it would come we don't see it nor accept it. many times we miss out because we just so damn stubborn. We are hurt and i want to be healed like this and that's it. But why not just be healed? Why does everything have to be a specific way? I know you didn't orchestrate the issue of the pain why would you be so constructive in the healing of that pain?

Its time to get over it. We made choices in our lives. We all have plans, but what we need to understand that God has a bigger plan for us and laughs at the plans that we make. We made decisions that we thought would be good for us. So why do we look back and regret those decisions. Why do we look back on things that once made us smile? why do we hold on to things that don't want to or shouldn't be held on to? Its time to get over it. Yesterday, you were a different person and that person was weaker and in that situation because of that weakness. You got out of that situation. you should never look back and think it would have been better if you had remained in that situation for in order to gain in abundance you have to give up something to make room for it. Don't be consumed with people and their mistakes to the point that you are blinded to what they truly bring to the table. Don't look at a person simply for their lowest moment for as humans we will have those times, because we all know we want to be seen for the strength that we exude. Get over it. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself o your sins and thus move on. Let not guilt, hurt or pain, sentence you to a bittersweet existence. Let not guilt, hurt or pain, isolate you from the blessings God has in store for you. Do not be so consumed that you aren't aware of whats going on right under your nose. Time to make a change. let go those self imposed shackles and walk upright. You have every reason to. Stand proud with the wounds of your past for they give you character and allow you to see things from a multitude of angles. While we aren't all going to experience the same things, the context of the situation can be the same. don't shun a person's help of their seemingly understand because they have experienced what exactly you have. maybe its that different angle you can use to see things in your situation a little more clearly.

Remember if you left somewhere, you did so according to God's plan and he has good in-store for you. Where you are is where you are suppose to be, don't allow pain to be the reason you don't end up where you suppose to be or with whom you're suppose to be.

23If you forgive anyone his sins, they are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven."